It’s time to listen

Published 6:36 pm Wednesday, August 28, 2013

By Pearce Godwin

It’s 3:30 a.m. and I’m on a bus between Kampala, Uganda and Nairobi, Kenya, before returning home to the USA.  As I bump along the Kenyan countryside under the night sky, I’m troubled by the political rancor I’ll be stepping back into.

I’m a Christian, Conservative and Republican, but all three families have disappointed me at times. Too many of my Christian brothers and sisters have gotten in the habit of spewing judgment and condemnation at those with whom they disagree. There’s only one problem with this: it’s wrong. Terribly, grossly, hypocritically wrong. Of many Bible verses to support this point, the Greatest Commandment seems like a solid choice. “Love your neighbor as yourself.” God help the one of us who forgets that we are no better than anyone else and decides to hop on our self-righteous soapbox condemning others as if we have standing to judge. We don’t.

Christians and non-Christians alike should take their convictions into the voting booth without reproach. We call that democracy. What we should not and cannot do if we hope for a healthy, prosperous nation is demagogue our neighbors because they see the world differently. Such behavior is immature, anti-social and un-American.

As for Conservatives and Republicans, vitriol aimed at the other side is both unproductive and self defeating.  Politics is not the central battleground between good and evil.  There are black and white issues, principled issues worth fighting for, but these are the exception not the rule.  There is an awful lot of grey area in public policy ripe for negotiation and compromise.  Today the parties behave like every issue is an existential threat and their last stand. The same critique holds for my Liberal and Democratic friends.

Rather than looking at our dysfunctional political governing system with the scorn and incredulity that it deserves, many of us dive into the cesspool head first and carry the torch of division and demagoguery to Main Street.  We’ve successfully created a country of warring factions, and it’s ripping America apart at the seams.  When it takes foreign terrorists slaughtering thousands of our neighbors to unite us, something is horribly wrong.

Now, for my humble prescription: listen.  That’s it, listen. I borrowed the idea from God because He’s smarter than I am.  “Be quick to listen, slow to speak.”

I believe we have a moral responsibility to listen and gain an understanding of the other side’s position.  Too often we engage in mutual reinforcement parties with friends of like mind.  We call this pervasive American practice confirmation bias.  Technology has allowed such complete fracturing of the information pipeline that most Americans are hearing exactly what they want to hear from people just like them without ever having their ideas questioned or challenged.  This is dangerous.

What if we turned off our favored news source, sat down with someone of a different, fresh perspective and listened, leaving as much bias and prejudice as humanly possible at the door? Then imagine if your new good practice was adopted on park benches across America, in school cafeterias and yes, even in the halls of Congress and streets of Raleigh. While we’d still hold different, even competing, views, we’d be able to move beyond slander and seek common ground, each with a newfound appreciation and respect for the other side. It’s too easy to step up on our high horse and rant until the cows come home, sometimes it’s even fun, but it’s destructive, and one by one we need to change.

Originally from Ahoskie, Pearce Godwin graduated from Duke University in 2008 and spent five years in Washington, DC working on Capitol Hill and with a political consulting firm. Share your thoughts with him at