Interpreting the fairer sex

Published 9:28 am Tuesday, February 15, 2011

I sincerely hope all you guys did the right thing on Monday and treated the woman in your life to a grand day…flowers, candy, dinner on the town, etc. I’ll know if you didn’t…as Editor of this newspaper I handle the incoming obituaries.

If you guys are like me, understanding women is extremely complicated, often to the point of frustration. For years – no, make that for centuries – the male species, although created prior to God’s decision that it wasn’t fair to leave man all by himself on Earth, has struggled to appease the fairer sex. As a side note to that, we men would have been just fine without women as long as we had the three “P’s” – Pabst, Pizza and Pigskin.

But, alas, there was woman and our lives haven’t been the same since.

As a veteran of marriage (30-plus years), I have learned a few things about my life partner. Listed below are words that all men should fully comprehend in order to guarantee their survival:

“Fine” – This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

“Five minutes” – If  she is getting dressed, this is half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

“Nothing” – This is the calm before the storm. This means “something” and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with “nothing” usually end in “fine.”

“Go ahead” – This is a dare, not permission, DON’T DO IT!

“Loud sigh” – Although not actually a word, the loud sigh is often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing around and arguing with you over “nothing.”

“That’s okay” – This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can make to a man. It really means that she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

“Thanks” – This is the least used of all words in the female vocabulary. If a woman is thanking you, do not question it, just say you’re welcome and then back out of the room very slowly.

“Yes, No and Maybe” – Lock into your brain these three greatest words in the female vocabulary – yes means no; no means no; and maybe means no.

“I’m sorry” – Don’t be flattered by this statement from a woman. What it really means is that you’ll be sorry.

“We need” – This is a simple mind game played by a woman on her man. What she really means is “I want.”

“It’s your decision” – If you have been paying very close attention to this column, the correct decision should be obvious by now.

“We need to talk” – Please, do not interpret this as a way that a woman is reaching out to the man in her life in an attempt to solidify a two-way relationship. “We need to talk” simply means,  “I need to complain.”

“I’m not upset” – Of course she’s upset, you moron!

“Do you love me?” – When you hear this one, go ahead and break out your wallet because she is on the verge of asking for something expensive.

“How much do you love me?” – Be prepared because she is about to tell you something you’re really not going to like.

“Are you listening to me?” – If you hear those dreaded words, it’s too late, death is not too far behind.

I’ll see ya’ll next week in this same space, that is if I’m still alive after my wife reads this.

Cal Bryant is Editor of Roanoke-Chowan Publications. He can be reached at or 252-332-7207.

About Cal Bryant

Cal Bryant, a 40-year veteran of the newspaper industry, serves as the Editor at Roanoke-Chowan Publications, publishers of the Roanoke-Chowan News-Herald, Gates County Index, and Front Porch Living magazine.

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